What I Help With
Grief and Loss Counseling
More Than One Kind of Loss
Grief can follow the death of someone you love. It can also follow the loss of a role, a relationship, a familiar version of yourself, or the life you expected to have. Those losses may be less visible, but they can still change the shape of a day.
There are griefs we collect along the way that nobody necessarily recognizes as grief: the career we never pursued, the child we thought we would have and never did, the relationship that did not become what we hoped, the house we had to leave, the version of our body we once took for granted, the role that ended, the years that disappeared while we were busy working, surviving, caregiving, or simply doing what needed to be done.
Old Dreams and New Ones
Some losses come from decisions we made. Some come from circumstances beyond our control. Some are simply the result of time passing and the reality that none of us gets to live every possible life. Those losses still count.
Sometimes an old dream is no longer possible in the form we once imagined, and we need to grieve it rather than rushing immediately to replace it. But grieving an old dream does not mean there can never be another one. Sometimes old dreams become the raw material for new dreams.
There can be a kind of dual process in midlife and other major transitions: grieving what will not happen while beginning to imagine what still might. Mourning the old dream and, at the same time, slowly birthing something new from parts of it. The new dream may look completely different. It may be smaller, larger, stranger, more practical, or better suited to the person you are now. It does not erase the old one. You can grieve what you lost and still be curious about what might grow next.
Remembering Without a Script
You may want to tell stories, sit with silence, talk about anger, or name the parts of the loss other people avoid. We can notice how memory changes from one day to another and what certain places, dates, or family roles bring forward. I will not ask you to turn the person or life you miss into a neat closing chapter.
Room to Meet
Virtual sessions are available to clients throughout Texas. When it is a good fit, I may also meet in homes around Killeen, Copperas Cove, and Temple. Familiar surroundings can matter when grief has made the outside world feel like too much.
Read My Approach for more about how I shape the work around each person. Individual Therapy offers a wider view of the concerns that can sit beside grief, including anxiety, depression, and identity changes.
When You Want to Talk
Send me a message when you want to ask about working together. I manage scheduling directly and can look at what works for both of us instead of asking you to choose from a public calendar.
If you prefer a free 15-minute introductory conversation before setting a session, we can do that. You may begin with the loss itself or simply say that something important has changed.
How I Work